Q: She has been in and out of rehab, then to out-patient suboxene treatment centers. She has been told by the centers AND by us that she needs to attend meetings, and stay away from the people who are bad influences, but she wont. We want to help her- but we don't have the money to keep her in Dr. appts. ANd Suboxene- when she won't help herself. What should we do? And we cannot afford another rehab- the last one emptied our bank account.- $25,000! She is 19 1/2, and has been using hard drugs for 2 years She has also stolen from us, pawned our stuff, and forged checks
A: You have to get tough and just draw the line for her. You have to tell her that if she keeps doing drugs, you cannot and will not stick around to watch her destroy herself, then stop helping her. Stop giving her money or time for anything but treatment. You don't want to hear from her unless it's about treatment. I'm a mom, so I know how hard this is. But i'm also a former addict to these pills (and many others) for over 10 years, and the only thing that made me go clean was when my family 'washed their hands' of me. I realized then that things had to change. I didn't have enough money for rehab, so I had to do it on my own. If I did it after 10 yrs of addiction (I mean, pain pills, xanax, anything narcotic I could get. I was shooting them up too) she can too. She just needs you to draw the line for her. Make her hit bottom before she hits it herself. A lot of 'bottoms' are death. Email me and I will tell you all I know if you wish.